
Dear LNR:
Most people define an open relationship as a situation where two people have agreed to be together but in a non-monogamous relationship. This means that the partners are allowed to date other people and have sexual relations with whomever they choose while still being in a relationship. Some people don’t understand it and can’t imagine being a part of something like this while others believe that this is the best solution considering the society that we live in.
Yes, it’s true I’m in an open relationship. Many people frown upon it but to be honest with you, I wouldn’t have it any other way. I don’t care what people think about me because at the end of the day I’m winning. I have my cake but I have the freedom to eat it too. So how could you possibly go wrong with that? I tried to be in a monogamous relationship but I got tired of going through his phone and wondering who he was with when he was out late. I suggested being in an open relationship to him and luckily he was all for it. Now there is no speculation or wondering if the next person is cheating because we keep everything out in the open. If he sees something that he likes he can go for it and so can I. Honestly, I don’t understand why more people aren’t trying it. I got tired of sneaking behind his back to see other people and I’m almost sure that he was doing the same thing.
We’ve been together for 8 years and our relationship has been open for two years. We have three kids and I have never felt so secure within my situation until now. Yeah, I know most people don’t recommend it but it’s actually more common than you think. People are just afraid to “air their dirty laundry.” I believe that we’re all human with desires, needs and wants and anyone who doesn’t agree with that isn’t being truthful to themselves. Being married or in a relationship with a person doesn’t change your needs, wants and desires and the more that you try to ignore them, the more they will continue to haunt you. So take a word of advice from someone who has been in your shoes, keep it open that’s the best way to go.
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